don't be passive about it

was perusing Boundless and an article about leading and submitting caught my attention. and i have to say, i find myself agreeing with so many things this writer bring up. i quote:

"That's how a guy thinks: "If I want something, I'll ask for it." But what a woman typically wants from a man — particularly in the area of romance — is for him to, very literally, take her up into an adventure that is larger than her own pursuits. She is not fashioned to have a man come alongside her, simply living with her and staying out of trouble. At the core of her being, she longs to see leadership she can respond to and enthusiastically support."

"What he ought to do, both gently and courageously, is assume the risk and inform her of his interest. In effect, he needs to suggest to her that she alter her previous plan and come along with him. This requires a mature willingness on his part to assume responsibility not just for himself, but for her as well."

"Too many men today lack such confidence. Such a man is himself confused as to who he is, so why would he want to go through life with a woman committed to him? It seems frightening. Passive men take the path of least resistance."

i know i'm kind of a bossy person. comes from being an oldest child and always being in leadership positions when i was growing up. i generally just like taking charge and seeing that things go well, and most often than not.. my way. but in a lot of situations, i find myself respecting the decisions of the people around me if they explain why it's better than mine. which is why i need/ want a man whose leadership i can respect and submit to. if i can ever find a guy who takes the initiative to lead, first and foremost, in his family, and in the community around him, i'd definitely be behind him supporting him in everything. i'm pretty sure i can play the supporter role well too :) (if i were to be given an advisory position *wink*).

well, that guy is bound to come along i'm sure. meanwhile... i am getting hungry! it's so annoying to look for food to eat when you're sick. food for the sick are so bland.